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Having it all: A Family, Your Life's Vocation and Everything in Between

 By Awunli Eghosasere Photo by Any Jane, Pexels.com Do you want to give up your career or dreams because you feel you can't cope with the demands of work and family? Here I am saying don't throw in the towel because you can if you can say you can. All you need is a healthy dose of a good plan and determination. Can a woman have it all? Our families and kids are one of our most important jobs and should be held in high regard. Letting go of your dreams or one of the avenues for your unique expressions will mean you are sabotaging your own self-fulfillment and self-actualization possibilities. In other words, it will be like living a one-sided life. Besides, when you commit to utilizing your abilities in whichever way you want, you become a role model for your kids.  You will be sending a serious message to your female children and others whom you would come across in life that they can be anything they aspire to. We need to see both roles of Motherhood and living our vocation

Olayinka Oyetunji: My Husband did not Hesitate to Move to Lagos with Me

  Photo: Olayinka Oyetunji CFA, ACA, ACS                  Source: #cleanwitholayinka/Linkedin  A finance professional was saddened about leaving a high-paying job in one city so she could settle down at another with her spouse. And having taken that step, it became increasingly difficult to find another job.  Surviving on a single income source was not sustainable and sometimes she felt her life was wasting away as she couldn’t find a platform to fufill her career ambitions, she had disclosed. Many women in society are facing a similar situation. They are unable to find work when they move to a new city to begin a new chapter with their spouses. Resources and job opportunities are limited in their new location.  In addition, women may not be able to go to another city if an opportunity opens up for them to pursue their career ambitions. Because, the societal and cultural norm is that a woman follows her husband to wherever he gets a job and not the other way round.  However, when a wom

HOW TO ACHIEVE MARITAL SUCCESS WHILE IN BUSINESS/CAREER

     Photo: Coach Jules.     Source: www.facebook.com/Juliet Okene Juliet Okene aka Coach Jules is the founder of audacitynetwork.com. It is a coaching boutique that helps high potential individuals gain self-awareness, clarify goals, achieve their development objectives, and bridge the gap between their performance and potential. I heard about Juliet Okene for the first time when Steve Harris mentioned her name in an Instagram post. She coached 35 entrepreneurs under his “Mastering the Business of your Talent” coaching program and the result was the earnings of N143 million in 6 weeks. I was blown away and I followed her. Here are some thoughts she shared recently on how to have marital success while in business. Having a successful business and marriage is seen by many as mutually exclusive. Life is hard. So choose your hard. Do you want be single or married, have kids or not want to, stay employed or unemployed? Whatever choice you make, it will always be hard. If everything i

HOW TO FIND YOUR DREAMS AGAIN

  Photo: Efe Fagbeja. Source: woman.ng Efe Fagbeja is a life coach focused on self-discovery and personal fulfillment for women. She is a wife and mother of four. She worked in paid employment for about eight years and has been in business for the last ten years. She is also involved in several non-profit projects. Since 2006, alongside her work and business, she has counselled, coached and helped several women to take charge of their lives in spite of their personal challenges and circumstances. Below are some insights she shared on discovering your dreams again. Women who have lost their dreams live for everyone else except themselves. Many women are stuck as stay at home mums. It is not bad to do business from home, however many women are at home and stuck not by choice. If you want to be a stay at home, that is fine if that is your dream. How to Recognize a Lost Woman. “Ask yourself: "who makes the major decisions about my life?” When a woman’s life revolves around o

HOW TO NAVIGATE A LOSS OF IDENTITY DURING A TRANSITION

  Photo: Ruth Echem Zubairu/Facebook  Ruth Echem Zubairu is an online visibility expert. She is the founder of AVC NG where she works as a consultant, a corporate trainer, coach and a speaker.  Prior to this time, Ruth and her spouse had moved to a new city. As a new mom of two toodlers under two years, Ruth struggled with a loss of identity. She desired for other ways to express herself other than being vested in domestic chores all day long. She wanted to do more and be more. She longed to have adult conversations and always found she took out her frustrations on her spouse.  At a point in time, Ruth discovered she wasn't fair to her spouse at those moments she unbundled her frustrations on him because he had also gotten his share of challenges at work.  This realization led Ruth to a place of discovery which she has coined as the '5 A’s for positive transitioning'. Ruth says transitioning means different things to different people. It could mean investing funds in a busi

How to Solve Money Issues in Your Marriage

Money is one of the stongest issues that break marriages says many studies and marriage counsellors. For example, one early sunday morning, I jolted out of a sweet deep sleep having heard the sound of a broken glass in a flat above mine. When I listened closely to the argument, I deduced that money was what the couple were fighting over. As a matter of fact, on that day, my neighbourhood was full of people who left what they were doing to settle the fight between the couple. It was such a pathetic scene!  According to a marriage relationship expert, disagreements about money issues shouldn't spun into a full blown war between couples. All you have to do is have consistent and respectful conversations around the money subject so as to prevent tempers from flaring. These conversations will give you insight into the underlying belief that fuels your partners actions. Understanding that underlying belief is paramount to working your way around money issues. Another step is seeking prof