|Adanma via Instagram|
But the story of Adanma will make you think differently.
"I left my corporate job to raise my kids and Quite frankly, it wasn’t by choice. I was unlucky with finding good help" says Adanma Ohakim Okarofor.
Adanma is the daughter of the former governor of Imo State, Ikedi Ohakim. She is also the twin sister of the famous Adanna Steinacker a medical doctor and YouTube and Instagram Influencer.
Adanma had the dreams of becoming a lawyer but couldn't proceed with that dream because of the difficulty of finding a suitable domestic help. She is a mother of four.
In other to keep the feelings of failure at bay, she explored an alternative. The "option B " as Sherly Sandberg Facebook COO has coined it to inspire women to explore alternative paths to their dreams.
"At the time, my confidence was hinged upon 'corporate clothes and heels', so imagine the frustrations that followed, going from that, to ratchet nails and tying scarves.
"I had to change my mindset or risk feeling like a loser everyday.
"Changing my mindset made me take certain actions, not quite as glamorous as strutting around courtrooms in Louboutins but I didn’t mind. I had already mapped out my destination and I was definitely going to make the best use of my stay-at-home-mum status." She says.
"Instead, I would go to markets conducting research for my juicing business whenever I had the time, looking for money to buy a solid machine etc. My family didn’t believe in my business enough to invest and so I eventually had to sell fabrics in order to buy my 1st machine." She adds.
Adanma started a home based business that now has two divisions (@lynn.wholefoods and @lynn.wholekids) and one in the pipeline.
"From the four walls of my home I’m building the empire of LYNN" She says.
She advises other stay at home mums that "with determination, courage and the right mindset, you can achieve anything set your mind to. Don’t let people’s doubt ever hinder your dreams."
"Truth is; I still love corporate clothes and heels, but imma keep killing it in regular clothes for now until my office is on the 47th floor, in a building owned by LYNN."
Some women may already have their foot in the door at corporate organisations but may give it up to stay at home for the kids when the demands of their careers get tougher and higher.
Others may be able to combine it effortlessly and there may be those who are falling under the weight of holding their family, career and work all together.
Despite the challenges of being a mother and having a career, women like Adanma are proving that women can have kids and at the same time hold sway in their dreams, careers and aspirations.
It is important that mothers explore alternative paths to realizing their ambitions like Adanma did rather than giving it all up together.
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