Changing the Way You Think Can Impact Your Marriage Positively

"As a man thinketh so is he " Proverbs 23: 7.

A personal finance expert recalled a certain time she visited the supermarket with her kids. On reaching a particular display counter, the kids were reaching out for their favorite expensive items. She wanted to say ‘hey we can’t afford these items now’. But she caught herself early having learnt not too long before the harmful effects of saying ‘we can’t’. She reconstructed the sentence and asked, ‘what can we do to afford these items?’ And that spurred lots of ideas and solutions to generate more income for her kids to purchase their favorite items.

It’s a wonder to know that when you adjust the way you think, it can have a great effect on your response and action.

The mind is a powerful tool. You can use it to drive your life and marriage  in the path of success. 

You are what you are and have what you have because first you told yourself so and acted in the way that brought the things you have into your life. 

A Psychologist Today columnist wrote in an article that our mental and emotional activities are interconnected. Our emotions,that is our response and actions are fruits of our thoughts.

For example,there are times when you see some kind of people and you think to yourself "I don't like this person because of this and that". Before you know it, you begin to act towards that person in the manner you have thought about them. Sometimes, you may not have had any conversation with them to really know who they are but because you have thought in a particular manner regarding them,you become indisposed to acting towards them in that way.

How you think about any person empowers you to either behave positively or negatively.

So imagine that you always have cool thoughts about your spouse. That will trigger you to act in a way that will foster love and peace even when he hurts you badly. You are tender towards him because you have set your mind to be so.

So, if your marriage is characterized by a constant bickering and fights, the key to unlocking happiness and marital bliss may just be changing the way you think about your spouse. 

Do you see him as a monster incapable of loving you and being loved in return? What if you look beyond his seemingly bad attitude and see a man who can be influenced by the Holy Spirit to be a better man. The heart of any man is in God's hands and He can influence it to do the right thing for your marriage. 

What if you adopt the mindset of freely forgiving him each time he hurts you because Jesus says we should forgive one another not just once but seventy times seven? 

When you forgive him,anger and bitterness will not have it's hold on you. And by so doing,you are laying a good example that will inspire your spouse to be a better man. 

Cheers to your marital bliss. Enjoy your marriage and family, it is God’s gift to you. 

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